Author: Dennis Michaels
Contrary to the fiction circulated by feminists, not all MRAs are vehemently opposed to abortion. Pardon me for being so jaded, but I think most MRAs would be just fine with feminists reproducing as little as possible. The one thing MRAs do have in common on this topic is the demand for equal reproductive rights in the form of legal paternal surrender.
Until I stumbled upon the MHRM, I felt I was the only person in the world who is strongly pro-choice but doesn’t see it as women’s rights issue. In fact, I think framing abortion as woman’s right to choose is counterproductive and rather disingenuous.
If abortion is nothing more than a manifestation of a woman’s right to choose what happens inside her body, then consider the following thought experiment. New technology is developed, an artificial womb. Where a woman previously could perform an abortion, instead the fetus would be transferred to the artificial womb and carried to term there. Upon completing the gestation period, the ‘newborn’ baby is delivered to the overjoyed father, while the mother is saddled with the financial responsibility for the child she didn’t want. Would feminists find this an acceptable compromise? Well, at the current rate of technological progress we won’t have to wait long to call their bluff.
Reality check – abortions do not spontaneously happen in happy, healthy families that are looking forward to the child and are well capable of providing the child with a happy and fulfilling life[i]. I subscribe to the theory – apparently rejected by most feminists – that rights and responsibilities are two sides of the same coin. I believe that anyone who brings a child into this world has an obligation to provide for that child. Abortion is the flipside of that responsibility. When parents can provide for the child little more than a life of perpetual misery and abuse, abortion does seem like the lesser of two evils.
Abortion is not the woman’s right to choose what happens to her body for nine months. It is the woman’s right to choose what happens for many years after that; the right currently denied to men. And when I say it is denied to men, I don’t just mean after the fact of pregnancy. Even reproductive coercion against men is not a defense against responsibility for the unwanted child.
While feminists are harping on about reproductive coercion against women, the Center for Disease Control reports that it is perpetrated more often against men. I don’t know why this profound observation even required a study. It is not difficult to figure out that supply of men eager to sign up for 18 years of financial slavery is much smaller than demand. The law offers no protection for the men. In Canada, a man can be convicted of sexual assault for using a sabotaged condom with the intention of impregnating his wife. I am yet to hear of a single woman convicted of sexual assault for lying that she is taking oral contraceptives.
Even abstaining from coitus altogether will not protect a man from the responsibilities of fatherhood. In the UK, a woman can forge paperwork to fraudulently obtain a man’s deposit from the sperm bank and perform IVF. Not only is she not prosecuted for fraud, but she also gets to collect child support payments from her victim. In a similar story, it turns out the famed tennis player Boris Becker is not only a great athlete himself. Apparently, his sperm is so potent he can impregnate a woman through a blowjob.
Meanwhile, framing abortion as women’s rights issue is a major obstacle to the recognition of fetal rights. Some recognition of fetal rights is not inherently contradictory to abortion rights. In many jurisdictions, unborn children can be named as inheritors on a will or beneficiaries of the insurance policy. The fetus does not have the right to a mother that cares about the child’s health. Feminist organizations routinely oppose any recognition of fetal rights on the ground that it will be used to undermine Roe v. Wade. American Civil Liberties Union is not far behind in denying civil liberties of an unborn child.
In Canada or UK, a child has no right to redress prenatal injuries caused by an irresponsible mother. I reiterate, I do not view such rights as contradictory to abortion. On the contrary, I see the mother as responsible for the damages she causes to the child she chooses to have, and abortion is what gives her a choice.
Fetal rights and men’s rights are locked in a zero-sum game against the feminist lobby. For as long as abortion is seen as a women’s issue there will be no recognition of male reproductive rights or fetal rights. This conflict can be resolved by viewing parenthood not as a right, but as a responsibility that should not be taken lightly and abortion rights as the flipside of that responsibility. This concept is not far-fetched, seeing how fatherhood is already regarded as a responsibility that comes with a heavy burden. Now we just need feminists to see motherhood the same way. That should be easy; they are big proponents of gender equality, right?
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[i] On second thought, spontaneous abortion is another term for miscarriage, but you damn well know this is not what I was talking about.
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