When discussing men’s rights, men have a tendency to discuss issues down the line: false rape accusations, domestic violence, chivalry, abortion, and sexual harassment- everything neatly, cleanly divided into nice, symmetrical topics. This is a good thing. Brain scans show that the average male brain is highly compartmentalized when performing certain functions. When doing A, part A lights up. When doing B, part B lights up. It’s as though every part of a man’s brain has its respective job that it does extremely well and that is all it does. (This is an oversimplification, but it works for my purpose here.)
Could this division of labor in the male brain give us clues as to how men came up with science and mathematics? We all know that there are no such things as the number 2 or an inch or a foot, but yet some guy drew an arbitrary line in the dirt somewhere and now we have things such as measurement, physics, mathematics, engineering- oh, and don’t forget civilization!
The female brain scans differently. When doing both A and B, the female brain lights up over a bigger, more general area. Some would say that women use more of their brains than men. I suggest that this functional ambiguity makes the female brain slightly less decisive. One who is not decisive does not have a tendency to act. This could explain why men took charge of history- that and physical strength. It could also explain why so many women seem to find postmodernist drivel so appealing- with its fuzziness, its hatred of measurement and data and facts, etc. And finally, it could explain the greatest social bane of the last fifty years: radical feminism.
With this piece I take you close to the edge without dropping off. I take you as close as I can to feminist thought while still having a brain left to think with. Won’t you come with me on a tour of this haunted mansion, the feminist cranium? I don’t pretend to have distilled feminist thought in its entirety. You’ll notice that many of these bleed together, but like the female mind, things aren’t so distinct and separate. These are the core values of feminism:
Revenge, lack of remorse, and threat of retaliation– Whenever women hurt men, they are “turning the tables” for past oppression. Women need not feel guilty if they treat men badly. Their abuse is justified, because they were wronged by men historically (“Men deserve it.”). Also, men better watch what they do in the present and future, because women can and will punish them for any given transgression (as defined by them). This is part of what feminists call “empowerment.”
Dishonesty– If facts don’t motivate women to join their cause, feminists make things up to stoke female anger. Postmodernism- the idea that there is no such thing as objectivity- and revisionist history are a great way to put marginalized people (women) at the center of things. That way, we all can pretend that women played a larger role in shaping the world than they actually did. Feminists also distort data, misuse studies, and tell outright lies to spread the idea that women are actively persecuted by a demonic patriarchy that wants nothing more than to eradicate women.
Blurring the lines between belief and reality, saying and doing– This is also related to postmodernism. Feminists and women in general are so verbally gifted that they convince others and even themselves that their opinions are literally true. If they say they are oppressed, this makes it so- according to them. If they say women should be paid more, this makes it so- according to them. Also, feminists will equate a catcall from a construction worker with a criminal violation such as rape or interpret the rape of a woman by a violent loner as a statement of male purpose. If we allow feminists and women in general to do this, it will encourage a new kind of discourse between the sexes that renders everything we say to each other meaningless.
Lack of empathy– Feminists never ask themselves how their accusations and condemnations make others feel. It never occurs to them that anyone else is capable of having feelings. Feminists are very sensitive to feelings- their own feelings. They can see how they as women suffer, but it never occurs to them that men also suffer. This leads to all matters of unfairness and hypocrisy. If feminists convince women that their pain is worse than men’s, then women will always demand special treatment.
Exaggeration of female suffering, marginalization of male suffering– Let us suppose that a man and a woman carry out a dangerous task. During this task, the man loses an arm and a leg, while the woman loses half of her pinky finger. It’s obvious the man is suffering more- yet newspaper headlines will go on about the woman’s suffering! This is because women have advocacy groups that make sure the world knows about female suffering. No one argues on the man’s behalf. We’ve been conditioned to believe his suffering is unimportant. Nor does the man argue on his own behalf. He’s also been conditioned to believe his suffering is unimportant. (Besides, complaining won’t reattach his severed limbs.) The feminist thinks that complaining is the same as suffering, but it isn’t. Her complaining creates the appearance of suffering, which helps her elicit sympathy from others. (However, her complaining does increase everyone else’s suffering.) Women do suffer, but when we deny male suffering, we get a distorted vision of reality. And with this distorted vision, we pass legislation that offers yet more protection for women but none for men.
Convenience– This too is related to postmodernism. Women should be able to do whatever they want without any consideration for logic, consistency, or cause and effect relationships. If the rules are to a woman’s benefit, then enforce the rules. If not, ignore the rules. All that matters is that it benefits a woman.
Passivity, feigned powerlessness, and lack of responsibility– Feminists don’t hold women responsible for anything, which makes them believe they have no power. If a man makes a mistake, it’s because men are bad. If a woman makes a mistake, it’s because men are bad. Men are expected to apologize for everything, but women aren’t expected to apologize for anything. They didn’t do anything, after all. But this also convinces women that they have no control over their situation- not exactly the “empowerment” that feminists talk about. And if women believe they have no control, then they have one of two options: 1) do nothing (“Why bother?”), or 2) overcompensate by trying to control everything and everyone around them.
Replacing self control with government control– Feminists don’t control themselves but want to control others. They equate total lack of self restraint with self expression. (Never mind that being an asshole is a poor way to express one’s individuality.) Because feminists don’t control themselves or their actions, they assume that everyone is the same way. They believe that, to restore order, we need a large government (i.e. Daddy) to control all of us.
Commiseration– Women should share each other’s burdens. The burden of one woman becomes the burden of all women. The slogan “The personal is the political” becomes a way for maladjusted women (feminists) to foist their personal problems onto women who are otherwise happy and well adjusted. Feminists often try to disguise commiseration with innocuous activities such as women’s studies classes, book discussion groups, or quilt making.
Resentment and misandry- Feminists are hypersensitive. They see female victimhood everywhere because their perceptions are colored by an overabundance of emotion. They are on a constant lookout for any perceivable slight against women and take everything personally. Feminists do not hold women responsible for anything and blame men for everything. They believe men are the demonic source of female agony. This resentment gives way to a hatred called misandry.
Paranoia, belief in conspiracy, and alienation– Men are innately dangerous and untrustworthy. They are the source of female agony. They comprise a group (called patriarchy) that is making every effort to marginalize (and possibly destroy) women. This leads to a terrifying worldview which not only causes new converts to break away from mainstream society, but makes it impossible for them to rejoin that society. (Such “drinking of the Koolaid” is the same strategy that cults use to amass lifelong followers.)
Female superiority and male inferiority– Women are morally, spiritually, psychologically, and biologically superior to men. Maleness is a disease for which femaleness is a cure. Feminism strives to make men more like women, not make women more like men. Men aren’t good enough for women, while women are too good for men. Men do not make enough effort to meet female needs. Women do too much to meet male needs. Men should expect less from women. Women should expect more from men. Female sexuality is beautiful and highly evolved. Male sexuality is ugly and primitive.
Male servility- Men are the ipso facto servants of women. All social customs (such as dating and courtship, clothing, and etiquette) and all laws with regards to marriage, divorce, child custody, child and spousal abuse, reproductive rights, rape, assault, murder, and sexual harassment should reflect this inferior status.
Male utility– Men are only good in an expedient or a materialistic sense. Not only should men serve women and expect nothing in return, but they should be grateful that they are used rather than useless.
Female autonomy and male obsolescence– Men and women traditionally needed each other in order to have children. A man’s sperm met a woman’s egg, and the process that results in life began. With the advent of cloning, reproduction without sperm (parthenogenesis) will create a situation in which men will need a woman to carry a pregnancy to term, but women won’t need a man’s sperm to become pregnant. Men will need women, but women won’t need men, rendering males obsolete. This is something that feminists are clamoring for.
Homosexuality and sexual segregation– Feminists are on a campaign against heterosexuality, because they see it as the core value of the patriarchy. Not only do they constantly attack heterosexuality in the media and the classroom, but they constantly exalt homosexuality- particularly lesbianism. Most feminists are lesbians, so by pushing lesbianism onto heterosexual women, feminists simultaneously discourage marriage and open more avenues for female companionship. They praise male homosexuality, because they see it as a subversion of patriarchal, white, heterosexual, male values (whatever those are). Homosexuals are seen as a safe alternative to threatening, violent, predatory, heterosexual men, and are thus “honorary women.” Here, feminists prey on the occasional alienation that gay men feel at the hands of heterosexual men who have been raised to think that homosexuality is immoral or even pathological. However, this support is only in theory, and feminist love is entirely conditional. If a homosexual chooses to live his life as a proud man rather than a feminist lapdog, feminists have no use for him and quietly reject him.
Choice– Women should have choices, but should not have to actually choose anything. However, if a woman does make a choice, and it’s a good one, she should be praised and allowed to reap the rewards of that choice. If she makes a bad choice, not only should she not be criticized, but she should be protected from the consequences of that choice. Also, women should have limitless options, while men should have limited or no options.
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